Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Cemetery tour+gift card+milkshake= Bragging rights!
Last week we moved back to my parents house. We are getting along great with them, they are in Brazil for 2 wks ;) anyways, dh and I stumble upon this flier from Publix (local grocery store), saying that if you go visit a cemetery and tour, you get a free gift card. Didnt think much of it and life continued as we unpacked.
The next day we had a full day of errands to run, while in the car dh and I have the best conversations ever. Well we were talking about something and he says I am a scary cat. I pouted told him that was not true. He utter the words "BET??"
Ohh that was definetetly a challenge, those are fighting words, I cant back down. We always have little wagers going on between us. We are both cancers, we both think we know it all, nothing like a good wager to prove who is right/wrong. All in good fun.
Well dh tells me "If you go to the cemetery tour do it, ask questions, get the gift card and take pictures, I will buy you a milshake from Steak and Shake.
Back up a bit...I have never been to a cemetery before. I am scared, extremelly scared and since steak and shake was having a happy hour on their milshakes, I could easilly afford one without doing this, but sometimes in life, bragging rights are important. I couldnt let dh call me a scary cat, chicken for the rest of our relationship. Yeahh he would!, so I called the number on the flier made an appointment for 2 pm and sent a small prayer up.
We got to the cemetery at around 1:45 with enough time for me to back out but nope I was going to do this. Dh still didnt believe me. He was sure I was going to chicken out.
Well I didnt :) The guy that gave me the tour was extremelly nice. He asked me what brought me here??
Uhhhh.... if I told the truth, a gift card/bet, that would surerlly send me to hell on an express jet. SO I told him I have a sick grandmother and I would like to be prepared (I do have a sick grandmother except she is in Brazil and I do like to be prepared...except when it comes to funeral and stuff) so half lie/half truth??
Sorry Lord !!!
Anyways the tour continued. I asked him to please concentrate on cremations. I dont mind cremations, being burried is what really freaks me out. He went through the whole process with me and prices.
Cremation without the service is around 2500 bucks, with the service is close to 3k. At the service you can decide if you want an open casket or just a picture with the ashes. I had no clue. I am glad I decided on cremation long before knowing the prices. Burials can be extremelly expensive. Cremations is the cheapest option.
Then you can decide what to do with your ashes. You can have them in a urn at home, have an urn on the ground with a tombstone, be placed on the inside of this beautiful marble wall, or be placed inside a book. You can also decide if you want to be outside or inside. Something to think about as the temps around here climb to over 100. I had absolutetly no idea about any of this stuff, but I learned a ton. Inside they have this beautiful library full of books and you can be placed inside the book. I asked a bunch of questions, and really felt at ease. I ended up spending way more time than I had planned. I was looking at everything. Inside there is this little windows were by the ashes you can put pictures, or little momentos. I thought that was neat.
I thanked the guide, got my gift card, took my pictures and left.
As I walked back to the car, I could hear dh snickering. He was sure I had probably peed my pants from fear, but walking back I know it started as a bet but I am very glad I conquered one of my fears and felt completetly at easy and peaceful.
Dh was extremelly proud of me. On the way to get my milkshake, I told him everything in detail and of course, after visiting a cemetery, the converssation is bound to turn into "what do you want to happen at your funeral??". Yeahh he is leaving its morbid but we have to talk about it. We had some converssations before about it, but never really made a specific plan, and since I learned so much today, I could ask more specific questions about his wishes.
Yeahh kind of morbid, he is leaving soon, and I go visit a cemetery and we talk about funerals and wether you want open casket closed, here or in PA and so forth. But instead of feeling sad or depressed, I was feeling at ease. I now know fully what my husband wants without a doubt. If GOD forbid something happens, I know his wishes will be carried out because I love him and honor him and I know he will do the same for me.
All good and worth it :)
Here are the pictures I took:
The next day we had a full day of errands to run, while in the car dh and I have the best conversations ever. Well we were talking about something and he says I am a scary cat. I pouted told him that was not true. He utter the words "BET??"
Ohh that was definetetly a challenge, those are fighting words, I cant back down. We always have little wagers going on between us. We are both cancers, we both think we know it all, nothing like a good wager to prove who is right/wrong. All in good fun.
Well dh tells me "If you go to the cemetery tour do it, ask questions, get the gift card and take pictures, I will buy you a milshake from Steak and Shake.
Back up a bit...I have never been to a cemetery before. I am scared, extremelly scared and since steak and shake was having a happy hour on their milshakes, I could easilly afford one without doing this, but sometimes in life, bragging rights are important. I couldnt let dh call me a scary cat, chicken for the rest of our relationship. Yeahh he would!, so I called the number on the flier made an appointment for 2 pm and sent a small prayer up.
We got to the cemetery at around 1:45 with enough time for me to back out but nope I was going to do this. Dh still didnt believe me. He was sure I was going to chicken out.
Well I didnt :) The guy that gave me the tour was extremelly nice. He asked me what brought me here??
Uhhhh.... if I told the truth, a gift card/bet, that would surerlly send me to hell on an express jet. SO I told him I have a sick grandmother and I would like to be prepared (I do have a sick grandmother except she is in Brazil and I do like to be prepared...except when it comes to funeral and stuff) so half lie/half truth??
Sorry Lord !!!
Anyways the tour continued. I asked him to please concentrate on cremations. I dont mind cremations, being burried is what really freaks me out. He went through the whole process with me and prices.
Cremation without the service is around 2500 bucks, with the service is close to 3k. At the service you can decide if you want an open casket or just a picture with the ashes. I had no clue. I am glad I decided on cremation long before knowing the prices. Burials can be extremelly expensive. Cremations is the cheapest option.
Then you can decide what to do with your ashes. You can have them in a urn at home, have an urn on the ground with a tombstone, be placed on the inside of this beautiful marble wall, or be placed inside a book. You can also decide if you want to be outside or inside. Something to think about as the temps around here climb to over 100. I had absolutetly no idea about any of this stuff, but I learned a ton. Inside they have this beautiful library full of books and you can be placed inside the book. I asked a bunch of questions, and really felt at ease. I ended up spending way more time than I had planned. I was looking at everything. Inside there is this little windows were by the ashes you can put pictures, or little momentos. I thought that was neat.
I thanked the guide, got my gift card, took my pictures and left.
As I walked back to the car, I could hear dh snickering. He was sure I had probably peed my pants from fear, but walking back I know it started as a bet but I am very glad I conquered one of my fears and felt completetly at easy and peaceful.
Dh was extremelly proud of me. On the way to get my milkshake, I told him everything in detail and of course, after visiting a cemetery, the converssation is bound to turn into "what do you want to happen at your funeral??". Yeahh he is leaving its morbid but we have to talk about it. We had some converssations before about it, but never really made a specific plan, and since I learned so much today, I could ask more specific questions about his wishes.
Yeahh kind of morbid, he is leaving soon, and I go visit a cemetery and we talk about funerals and wether you want open casket closed, here or in PA and so forth. But instead of feeling sad or depressed, I was feeling at ease. I now know fully what my husband wants without a doubt. If GOD forbid something happens, I know his wishes will be carried out because I love him and honor him and I know he will do the same for me.
All good and worth it :)
Here are the pictures I took:
Saturday, August 14, 2010
Getting ready to say "see you later" again.
After months on top of months of stress, worry, too little money, too much drama and too many curveballs to last a lifetime, hubby leaves for his new job. He will still be in the US for the next 2 weeks while training and doing paperwork, and then to overseas he goes. He was deployed once. Iraq I know, we are old buddies. Because the hubby was there before, I kind of feel Iraq is safe. This new place called Afghanistan scares me. The news doesnt help. Casualty rate is high, war is raging, the country is unstable. Blah blah blah. I dont want to think about it. I like to believe that if one is going to die, they are going to die chocking on a M&M or in war. You are exactly where you are supossed to be. God knows what HE is doing and I trust Him (or try to ;)
But anyways even though this new job brings back old fears and separation, it also brings stability, moola and a chance for me once again to prove that I can do it alone and do a damn good job that my husband halfway across the world can be proud. He knows he doesnt have to worry, that everything will be taken care of. He knows all that and I also know all the sacrificies he is making for us. Our love will grow, we will grow separatetly and it will be good.
Until "see you later" there have been many trips to the park, various ice pops before lunch, too many tickling sessions, kite flying, water splashing and so forth. The moments we all live for. Soaking it all up to helps us get through the next 6 months or so until we see him again.
Love A
But anyways even though this new job brings back old fears and separation, it also brings stability, moola and a chance for me once again to prove that I can do it alone and do a damn good job that my husband halfway across the world can be proud. He knows he doesnt have to worry, that everything will be taken care of. He knows all that and I also know all the sacrificies he is making for us. Our love will grow, we will grow separatetly and it will be good.
Until "see you later" there have been many trips to the park, various ice pops before lunch, too many tickling sessions, kite flying, water splashing and so forth. The moments we all live for. Soaking it all up to helps us get through the next 6 months or so until we see him again.
Love A
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Checking in...
The days are long, too long, full of stress, decisions, worry, wonder, hope and so forth. No time to sit down and really share everything that is going on. Until then I am sorry. I miss my outlet as much as you guys miss having something to read at 3am ;)
Soon enough I shall be back. I promise.
Love A
Soon enough I shall be back. I promise.
Love A
Saturday, June 5, 2010
Still storming....
I havent posted close to a month and not because I been enjoying the sunshine, but because I been so busy dealing with these storms in our lives.
Okay so update...with the job situation, hubby is working at a local place until we wait to see whats going on.
He got offered a job with an overseas company that if we get it its the solution to our problems, but for us to get he needs some shots, bloodwork, and dental and that got to come out of pocket. Right now we are trying to get everything together for him to be able to deploy with this company. Yesterday we just got hit with another nasty storm. The army fucked up his teeth so bad that it will cost us a lot of money to fix it in order for him to qualify for this overseas job (your dental has to be perfect since you wont have access to a dentist for a yr), so we dont know what we will do.
His old job in Kuwait, they finally got him a visa, but because we changed his flight 3 times before because of this visa drama, when we went to change it the 4th time delta said nope cant change it. Sorry!!
SO right now we have the decision of either taking the money that he is making at the local job and buying a ticket back to kuwait or taking the money and doing the stuff for the other overseas company that will solve our lives. I dont know what will do!
Now for home life..living with my parents got so stressfull, we finally had to move out. Our amazing friends took us in. 4 adults, 2 dogs and 5 kids in a 3/2 is chaotic at times, but they have been like our fairy godmothers helping us with everything and anything they can. We owe them big time and never will be able to repay their kindness. Trully a gift.
Our relationship with my parents is slowly building again now that we are not under the same roof. It will take time and I dont ever know if it will fully. I been so busy with everything else, I havent really had the time to process. Just another ol pot at the back of the cabinet. Oh well!!.
The kids are doing amazing. Tyler is living with 4 little girls and even though he is developing a strong love for princess and barbie stuff, he is also being a lot more kinder and caring. This huge dose of hormone is doing wonderful for him ;)
Juliet is fully walking and learning new things everyday. SHe is my easy child. Kids like her, I would have 5..lol. My favorite thing she does latetly is when I pucker up to give her a kiss she leans her forehead to my lips. Such a cuddlebug.
So that is what life is right now. Overlly chaotic, aboslutely insane and extremelly hard right now, but full of joy and laughter and besides, the longest storm I know have lasted 40 days, so soon the sun will have to shine!
Love A
Okay so update...with the job situation, hubby is working at a local place until we wait to see whats going on.
He got offered a job with an overseas company that if we get it its the solution to our problems, but for us to get he needs some shots, bloodwork, and dental and that got to come out of pocket. Right now we are trying to get everything together for him to be able to deploy with this company. Yesterday we just got hit with another nasty storm. The army fucked up his teeth so bad that it will cost us a lot of money to fix it in order for him to qualify for this overseas job (your dental has to be perfect since you wont have access to a dentist for a yr), so we dont know what we will do.
His old job in Kuwait, they finally got him a visa, but because we changed his flight 3 times before because of this visa drama, when we went to change it the 4th time delta said nope cant change it. Sorry!!
SO right now we have the decision of either taking the money that he is making at the local job and buying a ticket back to kuwait or taking the money and doing the stuff for the other overseas company that will solve our lives. I dont know what will do!
Now for home life..living with my parents got so stressfull, we finally had to move out. Our amazing friends took us in. 4 adults, 2 dogs and 5 kids in a 3/2 is chaotic at times, but they have been like our fairy godmothers helping us with everything and anything they can. We owe them big time and never will be able to repay their kindness. Trully a gift.
Our relationship with my parents is slowly building again now that we are not under the same roof. It will take time and I dont ever know if it will fully. I been so busy with everything else, I havent really had the time to process. Just another ol pot at the back of the cabinet. Oh well!!.
The kids are doing amazing. Tyler is living with 4 little girls and even though he is developing a strong love for princess and barbie stuff, he is also being a lot more kinder and caring. This huge dose of hormone is doing wonderful for him ;)
Juliet is fully walking and learning new things everyday. SHe is my easy child. Kids like her, I would have 5..lol. My favorite thing she does latetly is when I pucker up to give her a kiss she leans her forehead to my lips. Such a cuddlebug.
So that is what life is right now. Overlly chaotic, aboslutely insane and extremelly hard right now, but full of joy and laughter and besides, the longest storm I know have lasted 40 days, so soon the sun will have to shine!
Love A
Friday, May 14, 2010
I want to get off, pretty please!
Get me out of this rollecoaster ride please. If its not one thing is another and I am sick and tired of puking. OMG!
Hubby came home on leave for a job opportunity. We got through his flight being delayed, he got home went to the job interview. Everything was great. We were already planning, dreaming and hoping. Well as he is about to go back to kuwait, burocracy has kept them for providing a new visa. No biggie. We extend his flight and a couple more days with us sounds heavenly. Well now we just found out they are not processing any visas, we have no idea when they will process his, his job is in limbo and the job he came home for?? He doesnt qualify bc you have to pass a DOT physical and have 20/40 vision. Yeahh dont got that! on top of them fucking up his pay!
So now back to the drawing board. Unemployment has been filed for, over 100 applications has been put in and we wait and wait. Wait for them to process visas, hope and pray delta will extend his flight once more, wait for any of these jobs to pan out, wait for a miracle, wait and wait. Did I tell you I have absolutetly no patience??
So yeahh get me off this ride because I am sick and tired of walking on eggshells with these people that birthed me and even though they took us in, they only did it as another weapon to throw in our faces. Gosh how did this happen??
Pretty soon we will start asking her :
before we make any decisions. I bet she will guide us better than what we are doing right now!
Hubby came home on leave for a job opportunity. We got through his flight being delayed, he got home went to the job interview. Everything was great. We were already planning, dreaming and hoping. Well as he is about to go back to kuwait, burocracy has kept them for providing a new visa. No biggie. We extend his flight and a couple more days with us sounds heavenly. Well now we just found out they are not processing any visas, we have no idea when they will process his, his job is in limbo and the job he came home for?? He doesnt qualify bc you have to pass a DOT physical and have 20/40 vision. Yeahh dont got that! on top of them fucking up his pay!
So now back to the drawing board. Unemployment has been filed for, over 100 applications has been put in and we wait and wait. Wait for them to process visas, hope and pray delta will extend his flight once more, wait for any of these jobs to pan out, wait for a miracle, wait and wait. Did I tell you I have absolutetly no patience??
So yeahh get me off this ride because I am sick and tired of walking on eggshells with these people that birthed me and even though they took us in, they only did it as another weapon to throw in our faces. Gosh how did this happen??
Pretty soon we will start asking her :
before we make any decisions. I bet she will guide us better than what we are doing right now!
Monday, April 26, 2010
Very welcomed surprises .....
When you are an almost 30 yr man, with a wife and 2 kids to support and a job interview out of state. Probably the most important job interview of your life, and you are feeling old, with bunions and a beer gut starting to show, there is nothing more rewarding than going to pick up your rental car aka: the cheapest one called an aveo or something. A matchbox car that no one wants it but one that does the job for the penny counting people, and the guy at the car rental place tells you they are out of the aveo and they will give you this for the exact same price :
You feel like the moons are aligned, that this is meant to be, the beer gut feels like a 6 pack, the thinning hair is a figment of your imagination, and you feel like you can kick arse. Never mind the wife that has her heart in her hands for 2 whole days while you are gone, stressing and worrying about this job interview, praying and hoping you dont get a ticket and cheering you all the way. None of that matters, because the top is down, the thinning hair is flying and you are chasing your dreams =)
Love A
You feel like the moons are aligned, that this is meant to be, the beer gut feels like a 6 pack, the thinning hair is a figment of your imagination, and you feel like you can kick arse. Never mind the wife that has her heart in her hands for 2 whole days while you are gone, stressing and worrying about this job interview, praying and hoping you dont get a ticket and cheering you all the way. None of that matters, because the top is down, the thinning hair is flying and you are chasing your dreams =)
Love A
Sunday, April 18, 2010
Cause and effect!!!!
Because of this :
I didnt get to see him :
this week :(
I have a couple of dirty words about that. But mainly I just cant believe our luck that a stupid volcano in Iceland far away from either of us (and we are in 2 completetly different countries/continents) would affect his travel plans. That ladies and gentleman is the curveballs life throws at you. Some like to think its all part of a big plan and that one day we will see the whole plan and be thankfull for this curveball. I like to believe that. Give me a couple days for me to boil it over and I might get there. There is always next week, if the skies are clear. Here is to hoping bc hoping is all I got right now.
Love A
I didnt get to see him :
this week :(
I have a couple of dirty words about that. But mainly I just cant believe our luck that a stupid volcano in Iceland far away from either of us (and we are in 2 completetly different countries/continents) would affect his travel plans. That ladies and gentleman is the curveballs life throws at you. Some like to think its all part of a big plan and that one day we will see the whole plan and be thankfull for this curveball. I like to believe that. Give me a couple days for me to boil it over and I might get there. There is always next week, if the skies are clear. Here is to hoping bc hoping is all I got right now.
Love A
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
....(pick a title)
Every so often I seen bloggers ask their audience to pick a title, so since this picture cracks me up and leaves me without words, I am giving you guys the job :)
Oops a daisy...
Just look at the dictionary, under "rubberneck" you will see my picture. If I know everyone is okay, I am a damn proud rubberneck and not only did I "Rubber neck", I drove down the street, made a uturn just to catch every angle. There is just something beautiful about this kind of accidents. Its so intriguing to me because its out of the ordinary. Oops a daisy. I guess someone made a u-turn too fast!!
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